Thursday, February 28, 2013

True Compassion - Not Empathy




In waking to my world... I have decided to re-open my capacity for compassion ... with much trepidation I might add. I have always "felt" the world and all its sorrows as a part of me.

In layman's terms I have always had Empathy in abundance (identifying oneself completely with an object or a person*)

I am a joyous person, that when weighted with the sorrows, anger and pain of others, I become depressed and almost suicidal.

Through the law of attraction I asked for an answer to come to me ...
Tell me how I can open myself, help others, without drowning in their pain?

It has been 2 weeks since I asked that question, and today I received my answer ... direct and unmistakable. I received it listening to a audio on compassion. I have listened to such audio's before, but they have always addressed how to become more compassionate ... not how to live with the flood of overwhelm that comes with opening that door.

The answer is simple ... Those other people are not me.

I will not say to myself ... "how horrible, I can't imagine how I would feel if that happened to me or my family". I will not place myself in their shoes.

No wonder I feel horrible and depressed in my "so called compassion" ... I have created their reality as my own. I say "so called compassion", because how is it compassion to create a story around myself rather than dealing with the reality of the pain of the other person. It is ego that creates the illusion of compassion in this way ... after all the ego is all about ME ... it does not feel compassion, but lives for self made tragedy.

Now when I see a situation where their is pain spirit will ask ... "I wonder how they are feeling? What I can do to help them"? In this way spirit reaches out and offers compassion in a true way, one that helps others and ignores the ego of self.

I am now free to love & give ... and so I shall. :-)


*Definition source - Empathy - http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/empathy?s=t




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